Polar Functions

[Salome]

How do Fi-lead users experience Te? What is the internal feeling related to becoming conscious of that process? I would say it is a tough conflict.
Have you had the pattern of demonizing your polar function and expanding and projecting that judgement against others who were exhibiting it?

 

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Have you had the pattern of demonizing your polar function and expanding and projecting that judgement against others who were exhibiting it?

Yes.

I would say it is a tough conflict.

I used to think that way but then we see in Vultology people that have both functions conscious and cooperating together.

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[fayest42]

How do Fi-lead users experience Te? What is the internal feeling related to becoming conscious of that process?

I’m not sure how well I can answer this because I’m not sure I’m always aware of when I’m using Te. The times that come to mind are when I’m trying to make a decision and my default thought is to try to do whatever I’ve decided is the “best” thing or the “right” thing, but sometimes I stop myself and try to think through what the actual consequences of the various choices would be and choose based on that rather than trying to live up to an ideal in my head.

Have you had the pattern of demonizing your polar function and expanding and projecting that judgement against others who were exhibiting it?

I think my relationship to my Te is sort of strange. I have definitely demonized it and still do, honestly. That Te stereotype of being a tough business-minded person who only cares about money and success and doesn’t care about people or relationships (I realize this is not actually the way most Te-leads are) is probably the type of person that most triggers my disgust reflex. But on the other hand I have idolized certain aspects of Te-ness. I have loved math from a young age and I always loved how black and white it was while I hated how subjective most other subjects are. One of my greatest intellectual passions was studying logic. I’ve never been a scientist myself, but I have a great respect for and trust of the scientific perspective. I’ve always had a deep desire to know the facts of how the universe works. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve also come to appreciate Te’s ability to get things done and to think about problems in a practical way.

On the flip side, I wonder if I have also demonized my Fi to some extent - or maybe it’s just Fi stereotypes and not really Fi. I’ve always hated things that are overly sentimental. I have an aversion to things that are just fluff without saying anything of real substance or that say things that are untrue just to make people feel good (e.g. “Everything happens for a reason.”) You know how Te-lead Ben Shapiro’s favorite thing to say is “Facts don’t care about your feelings”? I think he mainly says it as an excuse to be a douchewaffle, but I do actually agree with the substance of that sentiment. (I prefer the way that fellow FiNe Randall Munroe expresses it in his xkcd comic) Perhaps this has something to do with being unseelie?

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