How do I integrate my Te?

[Rickus]

So I have developed Te in my stack, but find it hard to relate to it, as it seems so different from my usual Se and Fi attitude. How do I incorporate more Te into my life without losing myself? For example Te seems quite assertive, but I don't feel very assertive and feel like it violates my identity to be overly strict or harsh, though I'm not incapable of being this way. Te also seems to be facts don't care about your feelings, but I usually place my feelings over the facts. Is it a case of balancing Fi feelings with Te facts? I find it a bit difficult to integrate. I don't want to turn into a harsh, domineering person but want to incorporate the positive aspects of Te into my life.

[Lucas]

I can't remember exactly the Te definition,  however if we assume that it's referring to be assertive and facts vs. feelings,  then I think that, as all the functions, the best result is to have a balance and to achieve to a balance it's inevitable to make some mistake in one sense or the other.

I mean, someone can read or copy one's own wake function but, if  that isn't put in practice,  then one can't learn how to properly use it.

So, there'll a time when you'll, not volunteering, came across very domineering , then the next time you'll be better in exercising your assertiveness and so on.

Finally, the better path to develop one's own function,  I think, is to practice with that function or function feature.

[Rickus]

@Lucas yes it makes sense, A person can be assertive if they choose to wield it like a sword, but they can also choose to sheathe the sword and not use it. This may relate to the myth of the King who is peaceful and non-violent, but will take action when needed.

[Lucas]

Yes, it could be a good example,  one should only learn how to use that sword as to not hurt innocents or him/herself ??

[Salome]

I'm also SeFi, possibly with Te-conscious. I also used to be very mild in my character, but developing Te felt like necessary and urgent thing to do, I had to defend my identity, my path, express my talent in an objective way, to learn to exist in the life somehow. Although it hasn't ever violated my kindness and sense of justice, but moreover enhanced it. Since I know and I feel responsible to defend what the right thing it, not just feel it inside but push what I feel inside to other people, systems and situations. I also have estrangement with it-now minimal, but it is myself and when I enter the Te-ish state I feel I'm moving my paralyzed limb and it feels good, expanding and straightening my spine. It feels like giving voice to the blackened part of myself.

[Rickus]

@Salome that is amazing. So in essence you are giving your Fi a limb to use which is Te. Its being proactive, assertive and logical while having passion at the center of it.

[Wolf00]

How to integrate Te huh... Just yell at people.

[Salome]

Yeah, you see-it has to fit the stack that already exists. It must be allowed to integrate. One might be using a function actively and still assessing it as unpleasant, ,,demonic", immoral. I used to think that people who use Te were rude, cold and mechanic and didn't have a soul, creativity and internal world and I judged them very strongly. When I gave way to developing Te, out of necessity, I was feeling not very excited about it, I felt I was losing myself. There were like two doorways, on was Te-tunnel and another was my main system. I was able to use Te frequently and master it, but still, it wasn't identified with my core personality. Because of other functions and the pre-existing order blocking it: Se for being restrained in it's uncoordinated nature, Fi for seeing it as not good and feeling contaminated. So to catch something good in it and reform value system, as well as find accordance to the value system let it be identified with my general self and personality. ,,Allowing" it in the existing personality is one step. Another is remembering this new way is not that new and it always has been my personality. I started to think about my Te-ish characteristics that I repressed before: I liked to lead and be captain in school competitions, I would get very goal oriented and strategic, when I finished school and my nature was more or less free from restraints, my primary functions got more power and space and Te as an intrusive function got rejected. I started to catch the resemblance with it across my history and see that I'm not only the unity of several functions that I approve, I have much more things in my natural character that my identity isn't reflecting and it must open and expand for this newness too.

 

[Elsie]

i am backend referencing model 1 and model 2 together somewhere in my brain, so u know i am not precise with this, but i know what i'm talking about, and now u do too
model 1 https://cognitivetypology.com/index.php?title=Je_Behavior
model 2 https://cognitivetypology.com/index.php?title=J%2B
TLDR at bottom for even-TLDRers...

i will be talking to the entire thread in general or anyone else who seems to have "issues" with their "Fi and Te",
have an agenda and do it. you are bending the world into shape not the other way around. aware of the use of things and how things affect eachother
no expansions upon these statements are neccessary (inward,continued thought about xyz) because they are baggage and limited notions of "Te" imho.

you too are a Thing and i don't mean that in some derogatory way but in the way that you can be moved as a whole/complete piece (this is a force with an effect/influence)

"but what if i'm x or do z or become abc ["Te"]..." need-not exist, and isn't your agenda.
you've got it right there and that fixes any and all "violations" of "Fi".
making the core outwards - go make a trench (placement,size,type) even if that trench is Niceness [way of outward conduct of which you may find more palatable].

if you can't make it work, then find a way. that's how you do it.
the solution above might just be a fast mind-screw but that's how it goes. still Fi/Te. (both!!!)
Je [Te] is articulator, not the soul-expression of ass-buster. Articulate however u want according to needs/requirements (seems you are focused on the social/appearance/conducting aspects turning into character-traits...?).
...mind/vision follows suit. u can literally chop the entire "world" in-half and end up seeing the skeleton/core components. then you know what to do. it is instant. an option and maybe some viable/secondary alternatives presents itself.
does this still sound like you're going to "violate" Fi? this is an internal experience of "Te" that i am describing to the best of my ability.
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evolution development lvl BS needs to die, i can see it being taken from "the wrong end of the stick" causing situations like this spaghetti-thread of hell to keep spawning
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TLDR from wiki to untie ur Fi-panties
. an understanding of causality, or the net difference between an initial condition and the outcome
. deductive form of logical reasoning and object-oriented explication
. conceptual solution or desired arrangement
it aint screwing ur Fi up and dont sound hard to integrate based on what has been posted above. u may not have to integrate it at all.

"Objects with little need for adjustment are filtered/removed. "
lmao this entire thread

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