Reply To: [FiNe] What are your Te quirks?

[Cosmo]

I'm sorry, I didn't see this thread until just now! Yes, I am the same way as @ladynerdsky with my closet, dishes, towels, grocery checkout, including the eggs! Too funny. I'm very particular about many things, how they should be organized for the most efficiency, order, logical sense. If a checker isn't bagging my items in a logical manner I just take over, lol.
Other things that bother me that may or may not be Te related: I hate it when people don't clean up after themselves. I always try to leave something better than how I found it, if possible. I mentioned this in one of my videos. For example, when I'm at the gym and people leave a sweaty mess instead of wiping down the equipment they just used, or people littering, people throwing away plastic bottles instead of recycling them, not taking responsibility for your actions, not taking action and expect others to do it for you. I'm also very particular about making plans (which is probably why I consistently test as INTJ haha), mostly because I like being prepared and following some sense of a schedule, and because my family and in laws aren't the greatest at it. I've seen the mess it can bring when you don't plan ahead, especially in regards to camping/travelling, which my partner and his friends enjoy. Several times they would go camping spur of the moment, without checking to see if the campground was full, then to discover upon arriving, that it was full. So they spent 3-4 hours of wasted time driving. Needless to say I didn't agree to go with them unless they had actual plans for this very reason. They are better now, this example is from several years ago and have since matured a bit.
Whenever I've been in charge of something, like a supervisor at a job or even in a gaming atmosphere, I can come across as rather blunt, harsh and "bossy." I'm not sure if the response to my leading methods would be the same if I were a man, but if I have a job to do I'm not going to kiss your ass while doing it, or hold your hand. I've never been very good at emotional pandering or emotional labor, that doesn't mean I'm rude. I always try to be polite, but I can't spend all of my energy walking on eggshells either. I've accepted that not everyone gets along and certainly don't expect everyone to like me, but it's still stressful when social interactions escalate due to misunderstandings, miscommunications, or ego/pride. I value clear and articulate communication. Unfortunately even with the best effort put into communicating, there's a chance at something being misunderstood. I used to be more direct and blunt when I was younger, and I've found that it works in some instances but not in all. I've learned to be more diplomatic and value politeness when necessary. Studying personalities has helped me significantly in this regard.
I may add to this later.