Reply To: Se & Ne - Ditziness/Scatteredness

[Bera]

@elisaday

This is something I tend to do quite a lot as well. It doesn’t annoy me or make me upset in any way, but I’ll make many comments such as “wow, we’ve gotten so far off topic now,” or “we must have covered 15 different topics by now.” That’s when everyone else I’m talking to says, “I don’t even remember what we started out talking about,” so I have to remind them. Or maybe I won’t say anything and I’ll just make some clever remark that relates to both the current and original topic to try to merge back onto the original highway. I don’t have any particular reason for doing this other than I’m still thinking about the original topic and I like things to be neat and orderly.

Yes, usually I only say it when the first subject was relevant and the conversation has diverged to something completely irrelevant. Like for example if we are talking about how to solve a problem and someone else diverges the topic to a video game or to politics or whatever. Time is precious and we wanted to solve an issue. Also when people are sharing deep emotional stuff and someone diverges topic to something random I tend to bring it back to the main subject.
This is one of the reasons I prefer to go out with 1 -3 people and not with large groups. Because in a large group it's harder for everyone to be on a similar wavelength. I love activities with larger groups though. Like playing board games. But for me going out with 10 friends to chill is...quite tiring. Always readapting emotionally to everything everyone says...paying attention to be nice to everyone...it sucks out a lot of energy and doesn't bring much in exchange ! 🙁 But when you are doing an activity with a group it's different ! Less emotional energy is spent and you are entertained/learn new things at the same time.
Indeed the best way to solve these issues is to say something that connects the first topic to the last one. 🙂 When you say "but let's get back to what we were talking about earlier" some people can feel uncomfortable.