Reply To: Analysis of Gulekno's Cognitive Styles

[fayest42]

If society views someone as a complete loser with no perspectives (just a common example :)) ) => this person’s close circle will most likely view him/her the exact same way.

I don't think this is true. At least not necessarily. I do take your larger point though that someone might use their reputation with the general public as a tool to influence their reputation with their close circle. But in general I think the way people who don't know you very well view you can be extremely different from the way your close circle views you. Just think of any person you've met who you initially thought was one way until you got to know them better and then discovered they were quite different than your first impression of them suggested. I know this is the case for me - people who don't know me well tend to view me as very quiet, demure, sheltered, and pliant. The people who know me best, however, know that I am actually very stubborn and opinionated, and I have an adventurous streak. And I'll note that this is not the result of me consciously trying to create either of these images for myself. It is just a natural result of my level of comfort changing how I behave as I get to know someone better.
But the way I see this concept of evolutionary vs involutionary play out in me and the people I know has more to do with whose view of you you worry about. Of course I care what the people I love think of me, but I don't worry about it because I assume they think well of me. However I worry quite a bit about what neighbors, coworkers, and cashiers think of me. Whereas some people seem to worry more about conflict with their loved ones, which they see as more dangerous because if it goes badly the results would be more devastating, while they are relatively unconcerned with whether the cashier thinks they're a nice person because the cashier doesn't play much of a role in their lives.
(Random side note: there's a funny example of this mentality in John Mulaney's stand-up (1:48-4:00): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KL_dhpvb-ZM&t=1m48s)