- Type: SeFi
- Development: ll--
- Attitude: Seelie
@Elisa Day, from what you’re saying, it looks like you also undervalue Fi, right?
It gets me into lots of problems too. Especially because it’s seelie Fi. 🙂 But looking back at my entire life until now, I think I am quite happy with Fi.
I also think a good balance between Fi and Se would be pretty useful. Choosing when to be vulnerable and when to be strong. Not that they don’t both have strengths and weaknesses. But I think Se is perceived as more strong and Fi – at least seelie Fi – as more vulnerable.
When I was younger, I felt very weak. I couldn’t make myself heard, couldn’t convince others of my views or even express them, as I always feared not hurting other people. And this used to drive me crazy, I really hated it. And I can’t really do that well enough yet, as Te is still not developed and because seeliness will probably never go away :)) but at least I don’t get stuck in situations, pondering for months what would be the right thing to do. Or stuck in certain emotional patterns. I think Fi became more of a filter and Se more of a search machine for alternative paths, which contributes to a greater cheerfulness, that many people notice, but also maybe to not always working things out thoroughly. :/
Anyway, I always felt Fi, even though I didn’t have a name for it. Same with Ni, I think.
How can Ni be boring? 🙂