Attitudes of the Heart

The heart, in this context, is the psychological nature of the emotional register as rooted in the limbic system and rest of the body. We each have a heart, and what that means is that we each have a certain emotional landscape in us that is in some ways longstanding and built from a lifetime of exposure. This includes all our insecurities, fears, hopes, yearnings, and disappointments. But in this article we’ll be focusing on how that heart is shaped and affected by the ethical functions Fe & Fi. Although they are cognitive in origin and focused on decision-making, both ethical functions are inseparably tied to the limbic system. The limbic system provides the information from which to make determinations about something’s orientation towards or away from the things we care for.

Fi & Fe evaluate whether a certain word, act, or situation is misaligned towards preserving what they find precious and both functions draw moral conclusions which then propel action. One could say the ethical function is the “voice of reason” of the heart. It is the articulated or sharply felt rationality of the heart, which would otherwise simply feel and immediately respond through that feeling with no more sophistication or agency than an infant. The ethical function mediates the heart’s wailings and concerns with the rest of the psychic economy, and presents its case to the rest of the psyche. “We can’t do that because it would hurt Elly” the ethical function might protest, weighing the causal relationships in the environment and how consequences might emerge from them.

In contrast, the logical function on its own would not consider how Elly would be hurt by the course of action in question because the mentally simulated scenario does not trigger the emotional register to fire. For the ethical function, information from the emotional register fires unconsciously from more primitive instincts that are triggered by the observed situations. The ethical process then has to contend with “how to act” or “how to frame my ethics” based on what it has discovered about being human. Indeed, the ethical function is often discovering for itself how to better judge all situations as more scenarios trigger the human soul’s concerns and nature into its awareness.

Light & Dark Aspects

Because the human heart possesses the ability for both light and dark behavior, so too do the ethical functions. Light behavior refers to being altruistic, communal, collective, generous, giving, accepting, nurturing and so forth. Dark behavior refers to being selfish or self-focused, aggressive, passive-aggressive/aloof, confrontational, vengeful, blaming, shaming and so forth. Whether one accepts or rejects – whether one condones or shuns – depends on what side of judgment’s blade a certain act or proposition falls. But ethical judgment, like all judgment, needs the ability to approve or deny and this is the essential origin of the light/dark duality. What follows are typical light and dark qualities that Fe and Fi exhibit as their rationality is affected by the disposition of the heart of the individual.

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Fe Attitudes

Adaptive Fe Aspects

The following are some common behaviors that manifest when Fe is adaptive/light:

Universal Love / Compassion

Although anyone may come to this conclusion, adaptive Fe more often leads the individual to believe “we are all one family”, one humanity and we all have an intrinsic connection to one another as well as a shared narrative of joy/pain and a moral obligation to our fellow man. It believes more powerfully in the ability of everyone to make a difference in the world, and to be a force towards that difference. It believes that if everyone lent a helping hand to everyone else, we would have no need for wars or conflict. Nobody would be left out, and by the simple fostering of good-will, solutions would arise to any social problem. This translates more generally into good-samaritanism. Taken to a deeper level, this can mean an advocacy for global peace and democracy. Adaptive Fe will tend to prioritize the group over any one individual, and will also see it fair and necessary for resources to be distributed more or less evenly. If called forth to serve, it will serve. It will heed the call both to satisfy a personal value of goodness, and to affirm their character and trustworthiness to the collective. Acts very much define this facet, and adaptive Fe feels one only truly cares if they act out that care in deeds and words. This also leads adaptive Fe to be very verbal, and perhaps overly saturated, with its expressiveness in order to ensure the sentiment is communicated.

Adaptation

As the name implies, another quality of adaptive Fe is adaptation — specifically the adjustment of oneself in order to meet any necessary social conditions. Adaptive Fe carefully tracks the energies of the social environment and intuits what is the acceptable protocol, then proceeds to blend into that energy. The Adaptive Fe user may wear many faces and will switch between faces depending on the crowd they’re in, in order to seamlessly adjust to the needs of each setting. They may excel at Pickup Artistry and at reading the nuances of social and sexual energies. And while this can help them create a highly prosperous social network, it can lead to a somewhat vague or diminishing sense of self, as they slowly start to lose their center to the many personas they have created for themselves. But adaptive Fe’s adaptability is not limited to the building of personas, and can also be motivated to adjust as is necessary for their own ethical convictions. If one’s personal relationships are suffering from frictions stemming from their own behaviors or habits, adaptive Fe will take measures to correct themselves; going through transformations of character. Whenever they discover areas for improvement, they may remake themselves according to a higher image. The Fe user will feel that they are prioritizing the ideal (often God) above themselves, and submitting themselves to the requirements of the ideal.

Politeness

Following from the aforementioned, adaptive Fe is prone to manifest politeness and the automatic assimilation of a social programming or etiquette in order to maintain their rapport. Adaptive Fe will feel a strong anxiety whenever they are out-of-step, and this feedback quickly shapes their behavior in an unconscious way. “That which will offend” is not said and in some cases not even consciously thought. It becomes necessary to provide everyone with a smile and to be on good terms with all people. Adaptive Fe may not be able to stand the thought of having enemies or being disliked. This can be terribly debilitating and restricting as adaptive Fe may feel they are always walking on eggshells. They may secretly resent having to always yield and not show their true opinions, even if this self-regulation was their own choice. It may even be the case that non-standard or non-polite forms of expression are indeed socially acceptable given the right execution, however the adaptive Fe user will not be the most daring to risk experimenting with alternative outcomes and will feel most safe following a known set of words and expressions. Over time this can lead to psychological distortions and to a splitting of personality due to how the darker aspects of Fe have been repressed and not given true representation or validation. Words are minced; criticisms are withheld. And this fragmentation of self can lead to intense volatility when the person falls under stress.

Adaptive Fe: Under Stress

Adaptive Fe can experience great stress from the nature of its attitude when not yet matured and integrated with its directive half. Adaptive Fe has a repressed dark aspect, which means on its own it is unable to stand up for itself, to assert its own worth, to say “I am valuable” and to say “you can’t do this to me.” Here are some of the common stress behaviors adaptive Fe may display:

Social Cowardice

Adaptive Fe often manifests cowardice; an inability to confront problems, challenges, difficult situations or people. The most straightforward expression of this is lying. Rather than saying “no” to something one is being asked to do, adaptive Fe will lie and say they will do it even when they know they will fail at it later. They may downplay the negatives of something in order to retain a positive image, or aggrandize their accomplishments in order not to lose face. When asked if they still love someone, they will say yes to prevent hurt feelings in the immediate moment. When confronted and asked to explain, they’ll say nothing is wrong or will make excuses. This cowardice can become very distressing and troubling to the Fe user’s life, sabotaging many relationships both personal and professional. They may not consider that they are in fact damaging the situation rather than helping it by their concealment and dishonesty. However, they will rationalize their actions as being for the greater good even though fear is the truer motivator in them rather than a genuine wish to aide the situation or the people involved.

Martyrdom

Another negative effect of adaptive Fe is martyrdom. Like the aforementioned cowardice, adaptive Fe will often not have the spine to speak up for its own needs and will be prone towards quietly taking abuse. They may be paid a very low salary at work and never ask for a raise, or ever complain about their position. They may take on all church responsibilities and bury themselves in obligations to everyone else. If this behavior is neurotic, they will work themselves down to an early grave for not knowing when to stop giving. At other times, their own ideology may persuade them into this martyr behavior as they sacrifice themselves for a greater cause. But adaptive Fe’s martydom is not always a result of heroism; it can at times be just as much a result of shame and failure. The adaptive Fe user may not feel they have the personal value or right to assert themselves due to a feeling of low self worth. This can cause them to take on the attitude that they “deserve” what is happening to them; that it is fair and that they’re in the wrong. In severe cases this can lead to suicide where what seemed like a perfectly kind, beautiful, polite woman is found dead from the excessive toll she incurred for living a life of emotional debt to herself.

Making others Dependent

A different result that might arise from adaptive Fe is an encompassing feeling of importance in the eyes of others as nurturer. The ego becomes fixed in an identity as “provider” and “supporter”, giving their life a purpose. In order to feel valued, adaptive Fe may want to make others dependent on them in order for them to feel they have some greater meaning to others or the world. If she is a mother, then she will be possessive and use her children as her reasons for existing. This expression of adaptive Fe crosses over with what Jung called the dark mother archetype; the over-protective woman that suffocates and consumes her children. This expression will work to unconsciously make it difficult for the other person to leave them. While outwardly wishing for the freedom of their dependents, their actions will speak otherwise. In a million subtle ways, they will secure their value to the party in question. They may say “we can use my car, you don’t have to buy your own” and thus ensure their place in the morning drive and its conversation, as well as pave the way towards a more difficult emancipation. The same will happen in romantic affairs. In its worse form, this obsession with the dependent party can lead to jealousy. Other friendships or connections are discouraged or even prohibited, isolating the individual beneath the adaptive Fe user’s faint smile.

Directive Fe Aspects

The following are some common behaviors that manifest when Fe is directive/dark:

Shaming

Quite opposite to adaptive Fe, directive Fe doesn’t believe in grace; it believes in punishment and the fairness that comes with properly balancing emotional economies. It accomplishes this through the use of shame. Directive Fe believes that individuals are only kept in order –and rightly aligned in their personal and societal perception– by a regulation of pride. It will take it upon itself to “put people in their place” if they are exaggerating their own self worth or diminishing the value of others of a higher tier than they. We see directive Fe echoed in phrases such as “you don’t talk to your elder that way”, “”you use the right honorifics”, “that was a foolish mistake, now your reputation is ruined.” To Fe a reputation is in large part a proper reflection of what you really are, as it reflects how your comportment is objectively evaluated. Outside opinion is considered legitimate feedback given to you by the culture; negative feedback is necessary as the eternal modulator of pride where pride is only warranted when the tribe acknowledges your abilities and value. Directive Fe is both the enforcer and receiver of this shame, and will concede or yield when they measure that they were the one in the wrong. However, unlike adaptive Fe which makes itself susceptible to exploitation, directive Fe will always defend itself against unjust or unearned reprimand and will only take reprimand when they are in agreement with it.

Retribution

Indeed, when directive Fe agrees with the shame, it would rather take punishment deliberately than be the one economically in the wrong. It may actively ask for retribution so that it may face others again without shame; having paid their dues. Balance is to be restored and Fe wants to stand on the right side of judgment’s blade. There is also a physicality and combativeness in directive Fe, where it may believe it’s fair game to balance the emotional scales using a physical-to-emotional pain translation. It will want to teach others a very somatic lesson, imposing an emotional experience on others through the vehicle of pain. It’s important to note that directive Fe is not sadistic by nature, as causing injury is not itself the aim but instead it’s the translation of emotional energies through the act. A higher motif arises from this physical channel, where directive Fe will wish to lock fists with others to truly “level” with them. They may develop a philosophy that “You don’t really know someone until you fight them” or “You only really know someone’s heart once you cross fists with them.” The frustration that is expressed through battle is seen by directive Fe as catharsis and as evidence of the reality of hearts. In this sense, directive Fe wishes to see –as clear as possible– what lies in the heart of others and may encourage or even invoke that reality out in order to understand the other person better.

Leveling in the Truth

This leveling happens not only at the physical level, but also verbally. Directive Fe is diametrically opposed to adaptive Fe in this regard; wishing always to cut through facades and speak frankly the harsh truth of its opinion. Directive Fe does not collapse upon hearing the truth, or cave under its pressure, but actually feels relief and a rebuilding of trust. It feels that only after the air has been cleared can anything true and lasting be formed. Directive Fe will compel the person to ask those hard questions, dig at the problem, expose the fraud, heartbreak or corruption and look at it directly with no compromise in attention. It seeks to establish respect through transparency, in feeling another’s pain and letting them feel yours. Getting angry at them and asking them to get angry at you. Directive Fe will be suspicious of any love or friendship that lacks conflict; viewing such things as symptomatic of concealment and compromise. It understands human hearts to be a messy business and is content existing in eternal but necessary friction so long as it does not escalate to unethical levels or into genuine malice. Notwithstanding it’s harsh outward comportment, directive Fe is ultimately driven by ethics just the same as adaptive Fe. It will still hold steadfast to its ethical boundaries, even if it appears alarming in the words it selects for communication.

Directive Fe: Under Stress

But a person with a directive Fe attitude can also experience a great deal of stress in life, transforming these philosophies and behaviors into more unhealthy forms. The following are some common behaviors that manifest when Fe is directive and under stress:

Violence

When under stress, the initially honest and cathartic qualities of directive Fe become exaggerated outside of proper ethical constraints. The impulse to put people in their place regresses into a vengeful desire to defame or humiliate others. What was once a desire to create equilibrium devolves into a desire to cause genuine suffering. The name of the game becomes domination rather than the arrangement of society into balance. A societal order is indeed enforced, but one where others are oppressed under the emotional and physical rule of oneself. Here Fe becomes predatorial and territorial, using tactics of intimidation and engaging in a power dynamic. Under stress, Fe’s morality is tossed aside and the person resorts to foul play in order to remain atop of the social hierarchy. They may become emotionally abusive and physically abusive. And while all people can experience anger or sudden violent outbursts, directive Fe is more prone to a premeditated aggression for the purpose of establishing rule and control. We see directive Fe often manifest in gang violence, where the same Fe that is used to gather people together is then used to pivot those people against others.

Manipulation

Another effect that emerges from directive Fe in an unhealthy individual is a proclivity towards emotional manipulation. Their ability to persuade and charm through oration is channeled into an artform designed to deceive and  attain an advantage over others. Sweet words will fall off their lips while far darker intentions rest beneath them. Fe is often keenly aware of the sensitivities of others –how they tick and how they break– and will exploit these vulnerabilities towards their own gains. They may assert emotional control over their relationships, weakening their lover or family member’s opinion of themselves through psychological manipulation and gaslighting. Through months or years of verbal onslaughts they will diminish the confidence of others and present their own opinions as absolute. And through the sheer force of their personality, they will mentally overpower those beneath them –inhibiting their willpower, mobility and life options. Similar to how adaptive Fe can create a suffocating dynamic of co-dependence, the unhealthy directive Fe user will use their loved ones to secure their need for control, relevance and ego validation.

Cultism

But this tendency towards manipulation may not stop at the home. The Fe user may extend the scope of their ego across a far broader group or community, using their persuasion to press their perspective and invoke agreement from others. This leads not only to the formation of gangs and cliques but ultimately to the creation of cults. Fe is utterly tribal in nature, and this same tribalism can be used to facilitate communion or to create divisions and special sects with niche ideologies. We see this tendency expressed in celebrities such as FeSi Alex Jones whose followers share an opposition to a perceived network of government conspiracies. It can be seen also in FeSi Tom Cruise who is famously affiliated with the cult of Scientology. The directive Fe user will surround him or herself with those of like mind, creating an in-group/out-group dynamic and reinforcing an aggrandized self-image. The Fe user becomes manic, prone to narcissism and all manner of delusions. As can sometimes happen with the judgment functions, a closed system is formed where the individual is convinced that they understand all that needs to be known and proceeds to act out that truth in the world at the widest scale possible.

Fi Attitudes

Seelie Fi Aspects

For Fi the light and dark aspects correspond to seelie and unseelie respectively. The following are some common behaviors that manifest when Fi is seelie/light:

Deep Empathy

When Fi is seelie, it retains an open and unobstructed emotional channel to the world. Painful situations register with a more acute sensitivity than to most others, and they may be prone to break down in tears upon hearing a terrible story or even from looking at a photograph of impoverished or abused children. While all people can experience empathy for their fellow man, none feel it more directly than these individuals. The seelie Fi user is constantly, but passively, evaluating situations for fairness and alignment to ethics and reason. They will evaluate ethics automatically in their own situations but will also do so unconsciously with others as their heart is eternally being pinged: “how would I feel in that same situation?” Without necessarily wishing to, they will step into another’s shoes and momentarily view reality from that place and feel all the same joys and pains they might imagine the person feeling, in order to gauge what is aligned or misaligned about their situation. In this way, seelie Fi users have an acute understanding of the individual pains of others, and a capacity to understand what is ethically right at the personal level – which can then be extrapolated to what is right at the group level. But seelie Fi starts from the singular out to the group, rather than seeking to help the group first by evaluating what is best for the group. They will form a very unique philosophy of what is right for society, not based on consensus but on what they’ve come to know about human nature from the inside-out.

Protection of the Life Principle

But this same empathic tendency does not stop at human beings. The seelie Fi user will feel the same injury for all manner of animals. There is no reason –it’s often thought– that human life is to be valued exclusively or above that of other life that suffers. In the pursuit to discover the core tenants of moral truth and align themselves to them, the seelie Fi user is often forced to conclude that torture and murder at any scale is wrong by principle, and that we cannot cherry-pick when it is ethical or unethical based on our human-centric bias. This often leads to vegetarianism and to an animal rights activism compelled by a belief that “if it has the capacity to feel pain, then it should be protected.” But this also leads to an appreciation for “creatureness” where the seelie Fi user may imprint on various other animals and come to relate more to them than humans if they share the same temperament. The seelie Fi user may deeply recognize themselves as “animal” and as one in the same family as nature; wild and free. We see this displayed cinematically in Disney’s Snow White, who is herself a perfect seelie Fi archetype.

Innocent Radiation

When Fi is seelie, the individual will also be bashful, giddy, disarming and effeminate. They will be sprite-like, in tune with their inner feelings, and  continually radiating an innocent emotional energy. This often causes a whispery or airy voice and demeanor as well as a very giggly and transparent personality. But the seelie Fi user will only elicit this energy by actively working to remain wholly unclogged by negative emotions. The seelie Fi user is ever aware that the world is a place filled with pain. Bitterness, worry, anguish, confusion and ignored corridors of their minds will cause a spiritual fog to land over them that will muddle the direction of their compass. The seelie Fi user will dedicate an extraordinary amount of personal time to try to untangle these knots, aligning their hearts to truth and filtering away the gunk in order to allow their heart to flow cleanly once again. The seelie Fi user wishes least of all to be obstructed, unhappy, inaccurate or amoral in how they feel. But they will not be able to do this –or be seelie– with unaddressed material. Without a proper and constant recalibartion of their moral instrument, they will be unguided in their direction and stumble into darkness. They will feel that they cannot depend on others for the moral truth, and neither can they trust themselves because they will recognize their obstructions – leaving them in a morose, clouded state.

Seelie Fi: Under Stress

Despite their usually cheery energy, as with all people the seelie Fi user looses his or her footing when they fall under the weight of stress and mental illness. Here are some of the common stress behaviors that seelie Fi will display:

Hypersensitivity

What began as a blessing in understanding others through empathic projection inverts into a disability amidst the raw static and noise of an overwhelming situation. Their empathic abilities backfire on the seelie Fi user as the very same open emotional channel lets far more in than what can be processed. They will become hyper-stimulated, far too sensitive to negative vibes and utterly unable to tolerate hostile environments without collapsing in tears. They can come to feel physically ill in emotionally weighted situations; needing to get away from it as soon as possible. There is freezing and paralysis, volatility and hysteria. A conflict develops between the Fi user wanting to have their own emotions, and resisting being drowned in those of others. They’ll feel like the outside is trying to change who they are against their will. Life can feel like a chaotic mess and their natural “permeability” will not make it any easier. But neither will they want to close their heart or become unseelie; anything but that. This will cause them to exist like a raw, flailing electric line — still hot, but exposed. Everything is noisy and it becomes difficult to know what one believes or stands for.

Cowardice & Withdrawal

Like adaptive Fe, seelie Fi is prone to cowardice but one defined more by an active avoidance of who they know they need to be. Driven against a wall by a conflict between their ideals and human reality, the dark and aggressive elements of personality will be abhorrent to them. They will not even consider it an option to act from their vectors, deciding instead to cower and be trampled over by others than face and integrate aggression into their character when justice demands it. They fear evil entering their heart, but in avoiding it they are responsible for spreading the evil of inaction. They will let underhanded things slide beneath their nose and will not stand up for what they believe. Indeed, it is quite distressing for the Fi user, who is most drawn to champion their personal values, to view themselves as lacking the backbone to be themselves. Since being a beacon of truth is among the most important things to the seelie Fi user, this will create a lot of internal guilt and the person may slowly grow to hate themselves for being weak. They will not feel prepared to face the world until they can reconcile their heart and ideals with the situation but meanwhile they will leave everyone else in suspense, avoiding calls or responsibilities. They will sulk in their room rather than confront life. Unlike adaptive Fe, they may not bother with lying their way into grace and social acceptance. They will instead collapse underneath the pressure of their own anxiety and freeze.

Playing Victim

But not all seelie Fi users will swallow their pain in silence. Others may craft a voice around it, generating art out of their experiences. They will pour out poetry and songs to encapsulate their condition, indulging passive-aggressive commentary on the world while containing glimmers of squelched hopes. This seelie Fi user will be a broken bird; a disenchanted idealist who realizes that the world is too wretched a place for beauty to last within. The distressed seelie Fi will talk about their difficulties in life openly with a mournful spirit. The same transparent emotional radiation that was once bashful and giddy becomes melodramatic, sullen and woeful. They will wear their bleeding heart in open display, emanating a private sorrow that also saturates their environment. The world is seen as a horrible place. Everyone is cruel and nobody seems to care. The pitiable Fi user may incite concern and care in some, or they may simply succeed in weighing down the atmosphere; transforming their situation into a pity party of one. They will play the victim and may begin to nauseate others with their theatrics. It may even be painfully obvious to them that they are bringing down the mood of everyone but they will be unable to help it; not being able to change who they are or what they feel.

Unseelie Fi Aspects

The following are some common behaviors that manifest when Fi is unseelie/dark:

Displeasure & Disgust

The unseelie Fi user will be constantly and unconsciously pinging their emotional register for how they feel about everything; responding with reactions of either affection or acute repulsion. They will be disgust-sensitive, carrying a very specific emotional and aesthetic palate with them; registering things as either tasteful or “gross.”  They will not be afraid to call something unethical or revolting by its rightful name and will make their opinion known with no apology. Unlike the seelie Fi, who is willing to be generous towards people and situations –seeking to highlight the beauty beneath things– the unseelie Fi user feels there is no excuse for something unseemly, amoral or cruel that doesn’t deserve to be excused. However, this may cause them to appear highly selective, haughty and difficult to please.  Family and friends may feel constantly judged by them, and they may develop a reputation as being standoffish or cold. They may be misunderstood as being ill-willed when they are instead merely standing for what they value and for what they consider good. Calloused at first, the unseelie Fi will be a very gentle and sweet presence to all those that can get past their initial barriers, revealing themselves to be a loyal and ever-honest friend.

Self-Focus & Idiosyncrasy

The unseelie Fi will be self-possessed, righteously independent and will exhibit that in their lifestyle through unusual habits and appearances. They will dress in ways that encapsulate their own individuality, having little regard for how aligned it is to the cultural norm. Unafraid to be seen as bizarre, the unseelie Fi is eccentric, idiosyncratic, and bold. Focusing on their own needs and values first, these adamant non-conformists will fight for their right to their body, their gender and their expression. Like a rose behind glass –poised, elegant but protected– they may elicit the feeling of being ever out of reach. And while the unseelie Fi may enjoy this adulation, they are not primarily motivated by it. Their conscious goal may be to simply allow their existing nature –or nature itself– to speak through them; becoming a vessel or vehicle for what is already inside. If the unseelie Fi takes a liking for theatre, music or dance, their illustrations will be dramatic, carrying themes of sexuality, primal displays and romance.

Bluntness

The unseelie Fi is notoriously blunt in their verbal delivery. Not beating around the bush, they will convey their opinion with a deadpan face. Wonderful or bad news alike may be relayed with the same monotone voice or with a glimmer of sarcasm. They may have no problem telling someone they’re fired, telling a lover their relationship is over, or giving negative criticism on people’s works or art. But this can eventually expand into a highly calloused view of life where any appreciation for sensitivity is omitted. They may respond to the tragedies or hardship of others with “get over it” and lack any sympathy for themselves or anyone else. Over time this habit may excommunicate them from friend groups –a causality they may feel indifferent to initially, but personally weighed by later. They may be branded the local “asshole”, shrugging it off or biting back in equal measure. Hiding behind this rebellious front, the unseelie Fi user may have lost the ability to convey their transparent feelings to others when it truly matters to them. They will struggle with vulnerability and the opening of their heart. Coming off as guarded even when they intend to appear sincere, the unseelie Fi user may be forced to show their affection for others through indirect means; being highly generous with their time, money or resources and hoping their feelings can somehow reach the other person.

Unseelie Fi: Under Stress

But unseelie Fi can also experience a great deal of stress in life, altering these behaviors into more unhealthy forms. The following are some common behaviors that manifest when Fi is unseelie and under stress:

Vanity & Self-Obsession

When highly distressed, the unseelie Fi user becomes obsessed with their appearance, social status and personal value. As hardships cause devastation to their self-esteem, it starts to matter terribly that others think them beautiful and valuable too. What was once genuine self-expression becomes a necessary channel for attention. Their self-focus deteriorates into vanity. Their desire to embody beauty becomes an obsession to receive external approval and to fill an emotional abyss. They may come to feel they only matter if they are beautiful and can be an embodiment of elegance in the world. They may become exhibitionists, raising the stakes higher and being more revealing than most in their attire and words. Narcissism begins to grow in them, which can progress into a desire to be exalted and adored as royalty. But unfortunately, one is never enough; never beautiful enough, rich enough or important enough. This eventually devolves into jealousy, bitterness, and petty hatred towards others who sit higher than them in any competing domain.

Bitchiness

This pettiness degrades over time into an altogether foul character marked by passive-aggressiveness, slandering and prejudice. Here, the stressed Fi exemplifies genuine malicious intent towards others, coordinating underhanded tactics to sabotage relationships and defame their enemies. They may gossip behind their backs, distorting people’s opinions and setting people up for public humiliation. The unseelie Fi under stress comes to be known as a “bitch” or snob; rejecting people based on lower status and power. They will use these tactics to secure their position in power, simultaneously validating their opinion of themselves. But this power dynamic may just as easily backfire and cause the unseelie Fi to become the subject of ridicule and excommunication when their ill-willed motivations are made known. The unseelie Fi plays a dangerous game of fraud and fame, risking love and reputation. Yet deep down the unseelie Fi may be indifferent to these outcomes, being motivated not just by a desire for status but just as much by a misanthropic view and resentment towards people.

Morbidity & Macabre

But unseelie Fi never loses its ability to glare directly into the character of living beings, including themselves. More than anyone, they may become painfully aware of how their life stress, disenchantment and bitterness has corrupted their heart into a thrashing, injured, disfigured life-form. Like seelie Fi, they intrinsically understand humanity to be animal in nature and when injuries have distorted their hearts, they will view themselves as a certain kind of monster –one that is wretched, desperate and irredeemable. But not only them, unseelie Fi peers into the depths of our human carnality and finds every grotesquerie imaginable. And they will often choose to embody this into artforms through the use of morbidity and macabre. The art of the unseelie Fi may be deeply offensive, shocking, explicit and saturated with horror themes as Fi seeks to paint as undiluted an image as possible of what they sense constitutes the uncensored reality of being. Often disturbingly sexual, frightening and taboo — Fi shies not away from any content matter; wanting to capture pain, sorrow, heartbreak, hopelessness and every human experience in as true a form as can exist. Bizarre as it may seem, in this act the unseelie Fi is fulfilling their original mission of providing a transparent lens into the human soul. All that we shun and repress becomes the content matter for unseelie Fi’s elucidation.